Thriving Regardless – Changing Our Lives by Changing Our Minds

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Our world is constantly changing and we’ve been told we have to put up with it. Some folks, though, have learned tools that make it possible to do well, be healthy, and have wonderful relationships, regardless of what’s going on around us. This series describes some of those tools and how to apply them.

Part Two – Releasing the Past

In Making the World Go Away, I describe a process for freeing ourselves from grievances that hold us back. Here’s a summary.

Starting the Process of Releasing Grievances

To start, imagine someone you feel caused you harm. Let yourself see them, not just as someone who hurt you, but as a human being with all the wishes, dreams, and problems all people have. If you follow a spiritual tradition, see them as a beloved of the Creator, just like you. (If that’s hard, take a couple hours and go somewhere safe to shout and scream and express all the other thoughts you have about them, throw a few rocks into the ocean, then come back to this.

Reflecting on the Impact of Negative Feelings

As you imagine them, ask yourself:

• Was it fair or useful of me to hold those negative feelings about this person?

• Did it help me?

• Did it help them?

Put this way, you can see that it doesn’t do either of you any good to carry this burden anymore.

Seeing Them as Human and Releasing the Grievance

So, in your mind’s eye, try seeing this person as a normal human being. Sit with that for a bit.

Then, in your imagination, tell them you’re done thinking of them the way you have. You may still think they deserve your upset, but what’s more important, your upset or your life?

Next, use your imagination to see and feel them hearing you and releasing any bonds between you. Feel the release that comes with this. Getting to this point may seem hard at first but gets easier as you apply it to each person you've been upset about.

Experiencing the Release

This feeling may last a long while or just a second, but it doesn’t matter. The point is that you actually feel a different feeling with this person. Then a surprising thing happens: you feel different about your life. You no longer carry this burden; you’ve been given peace of mind in return for what you’ve released. The movie It’s A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood is a great example of how this works.

Transforming Your Relationships with the Past

You’ve transformed your relationship with a key person associated with the past. The only thing left is to do the same thing with others you're carrying grievances for. You need to get to the love and light and form this new intention with each of them.

With each one, you’ll shift your beliefs about yourself and the world and free energy to live your life in a new way.

Living Your New Life

Now do something that gives you joy. It’s part of your new life, and you’ve earned it!

Dr. Ruth L. Miller is best described as a synthesist of all things relevant to consciousness, human potential, and culture. She works with academic institutions, individuals, nonprofits, churches, and small businesses to guide them through the confusion of today's world and into the new culture that is unfolding in and around so many people, today.